Do you have a shy child? Read this!
Posted: October 31, 2019
As an elementary school teacher and a martial arts school owner/instructor for many years, I have seen this all too often.
A child comes in hugging the parent’s leg… “Oh, he is just painfully shy.”
Painful? For whom? The parent or the child?
As a parent, we want our children to be confident enough to speak to other children and adults, but what about in school or social situations?
If they are hugging your leg in front of you, what is happening other times?
Are they able to raise their hand in school to answer a question? Are they able to have some quality time with a friend?
Does the label YOU gave them, “painfully shy” make matters worse?
Is it possible that if a child hears that they are shy over and over, they will continue to be shy?
How can we as parents and mentors make it possible for children to be more outgoing?
They need to be taught. They need to practice. They need love, guidance, and support from all sides.
First, they need to practice in a one-on-one setting.
Then, small groups. Then a whole room.
Pretty soon, shyness and lack of confidence will be a thing of the past.