Many parents stifle a child’s growth and future success with limiting beliefs.
Some parents don’t even realize they are putting their past experiences into their child’s psyche, just with these 5 sayings:
PLEASE, avoid these at all costs!
- “You’re not smart enough”: Telling a child that they lack intelligence can significantly impact their self-esteem and belief in their own abilities. This discouraging statement can create a fixed mindset, where they believe that their abilities are limited and cannot be improved through effort and learning.
- “You’ll never amount to anything”: This kind of negative and dismissive comment can crush a child’s aspirations and motivation. It instills a sense of hopelessness and undermines their belief in their own potential for success. Without encouragement and support, they may struggle to develop the necessary drive and confidence to pursue their goals.
- “Stop trying, you’ll only fail”: Discouraging a child from taking risks or attempting new things can hinder their personal growth and development. Failure is a natural part of the learning process, and by instilling fear of failure, children may become risk-averse and reluctant to challenge themselves. This can limit their opportunities for success and innovation.
- “You’re just lazy”: Labeling a child as lazy can lead to a negative self-image and erode their motivation. Instead of addressing any underlying factors that might be affecting their behavior, this statement simplifies the situation and fails to encourage them to take responsibility for their actions. It is important to approach challenges with empathy and help them develop a growth mindset.
- “You’ll never be as good as your sibling/friend”: Comparing a child unfavorably to others can have a detrimental impact on their self-esteem and self-worth. Each child is unique with their own strengths and weaknesses. Such comparisons can foster jealousy, resentment, and a sense of inadequacy. It is more productive to focus on individual progress and personal growth rather than making comparisons to others.
INSTEAD: try these!
- “You’re capable of amazing things!”
- “Believe in yourself, and anything is possible.”
- “Mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow.”
- “You have unique talents that make you special.”
- “Keep going, you’re making great progress!”
Parenting is hard, you need a village to raise them right.
We are honored to be part of that village!
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